‘m becoming more convinced that our approach to parenting will teach one or the other. I’m also convinced that many Christian parents, in an effort to zealously teach obedience, are, in fact, teaching idolatry.
I realize that is a very strong claim to make, so I will do my best to back it up. I also do my best to always be supportive and understanding of every parent, meeting them where they are in their parenting journey, and never judging their heart, which I always assume loves their child very much. But it is because I make this positive assumption about parents’ motivations that I feel I must speak so strongly on this subject.
The first 5 Commandments,
paraphrased as I taught them to my children.
- Seek ye first the Kingdom of God, and His righteousness, and all these
things shall be added unto you. Matthew 6:33
- I am the Lord your God. You shall have no other gods before me.
- You shall not make for yourselves an idol in the form of anything in
the heavens above, the earth beneath or the waters below.
- Do not take the Lord’s name in vain.
- Remember the Sabbath and keep it holy.
- Honor your father and mother.
Do you notice the same thing about these verses that has been jumping out at me lately? Perhaps not, but I didn’t notice it
until recently so don’t be too hard on yourselves. Who comes first in these passages of instruction-God or someone else?
I’m seeing that we’re to seek first the Kingdom of God and HIS righteousness AND that we are to honor God before we honor our parents.
Yet popular Christian parenting experts will tell you the opposite-that a child will learn to obey God by FIRST obeying his parents. I would like to know on what basis this claim is made since it goes exactly against the teaching of God. And, I might add, that I choose to fear God instead of man and desire to teach my children to do the same so I will listen to God over these experts. I also want to teach my children to listen to God over ME and that cannot be done if my requirement of my child is first time obedience to everything I say.