When I show kindness, I am being obedient!
Is everything in our home perfect? I’d be lying if I said it was. In fact, we’re still facing those big struggles and lessons that were causing us to lose our focus in the first place. But we have God’s peace in our home in a way we didn’t during our attempts to get it in our own strength. We are being obedient to God and, amazingly enough, our children are back to being obedient to us — and even more than they were before!
Through our efforts to resolve things without demanding obedience we found areas where we thought we’d taught them completely but we’d forgotten some aspect, or they were experiencing confusion about our instructions. We stopped projecting our anxiety onto them and they stopped magnifying it back to us. We started working together to find a common good instead of expecting “them” to meet “our” needs. Life is good. We’re a team again.
This will require you let go of the picture in your head of perfect children and a perfect family that you’re trying to press everyone into.
If you are having more conflict in your home than you’d like . . . If you are spending all of your energy trying to make your children obey . . . If you’re wondering where the peace is that God says is there for HIS children . . . Perhaps, as His child, you need to look for areas where you can fulfill the instruction to obey your Father so that things will go well with you in the land God is giving you. This will require you let go of the picture in your head of perfect children and a perfect family that you’re trying to press everyone into. That is hard. I understand. But in doing so you will be able to work with God towards your own perfection, and you can trust God to keep working on the other people in your life. You can know that by being obedient yourself you ARE teaching obedience — but in the best way, through modeling it to your disciples.