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Arms of Love Family Fellowship

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    • The Spanking Files
      • History of Spanking
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    • The Ironic Dynamic
    • Now What?
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    • False Doctrine of Spanking
    • The Spanking Files II
      • A Matter of Age…
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      • The Ways of the Tzaddikim
      • The First Gate — The Gate of Pride
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    • Aggressive Toddlers
      • When will he ever stop hurting me?
      • Hitting for attention
      • What about biting?
      • My 4-year-old is so bossy!
      • What about those intense emotional storms?
    • Teaching "No Hitting"
      • Boys who hit
    • Using 'As Soon As'
      • Should I Compromise With Them?
    • Consequences…
    • Directions
      • How does this work for my little ones?
      • How do you keep it playful?
      • Silly rules vs Real rules – won't they get confused?
      • Choices and Meltdowns…
      • Teaching him respect…
      • Motivation or Manipulation – is there a difference?
      • Teaching them to be responsible for own behavior – HOW?
    • Sharing vs. Taking Turns
    • Dealing With Annoying Behavior
      • Why are they so much worse in restaurants?!
      • My child won't obey unless I promise him a reward!
      • How do I deal with sassiness?
      • She won't stop sticking out her tongue!
    • Standards of Behavior
      • What do you do when….?
      • How do you handle it when…?
    • Coping With Babies and Toddlers
      • My toddler keeps hitting my baby!
    • Ages One to Three
    • Ages Four to Six
    • Feeling Good, Acting Good
      • Teaching Leaving Successfully
    • Nice vs. Kind
    • Teaching "No Lying"
    • Tantrums
    • What About Forgiveness?
    • She wants to play all the time!
    • Potty Readiness
    • If the rules are posted, are consequences punitive?
  • January 27, 2012

Grace-Based Discipline

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Grace-Based Discipline (GBD) is a parenting style which is Biblically supported and rooted in the New Testament teachings of Grace. In my book, "Biblical Parenting," I fully believe that the popular parenting teachings of today are not based on a proper understanding of how God would have us be in relationship with our children. God is about relationships-attaching and not detaching, connecting and not disconnecting. Too often parents are taught that their discipline choices can even guarantee … [Read More...]

Spare the Rod

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The reason this section of my site is called "Spare the Rod" is because this verse, and a handful of verses that mention the Rod, have been touted as teaching the modern day practice of spanking. In fact, I often get emails from people who have visited my site and want to ask me why I don't know that the Bible teaches parents to spare the rod and spoil the child. First of all, that isn't Scripture -- it's a poem by Samuel Butler called "Hudibras" . Not only that, but in the poem he is … [Read More...]

Spoil the Child

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In this section of the site I want to address the dangers and issues of permissiveness. Unfortunately, most people in America are under the impression that you have a choice between being punitive and being permissive. Those who don't want to be permissive embrace a punitive style of parenting, and those who don't want to be punitive typically embrace permissiveness The reasons vary but some of the most popular reasons include having been parented with punishments and not … [Read More...]

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  • Arms of Love Family Fellowship
  • P.O. Box 12403
  • Glendale, Arizona 85318
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About AOLFF

The Arms of Love Family Fellowship, founded by Crystal Lutton, is a ministry devoted to mentoring moms and dads in a positive discipline approach called Grace Based Discipline.  This method has … [Read More...]

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