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Grace-Based Discipline (GBD) is a parenting style which is Biblically supported and rooted in the New Testament teachings of Grace. In my book, "Biblical Parenting," I explain why I fully believe that the popular parenting teachings of today are not based on a proper understanding of how God would have us be in relationship with our children. God is about relationships -- attaching and not detaching, connecting and not disconnecting. Too often parents are taught that their discipline choices … [Read More...]

The reason this section of my site is called "Spare the Rod" is because this verse, and a handful of verses that mention the Rod, have been touted as teaching the modern day practice of spanking. In fact, I often get emails from people who have visited my site and want to ask me why I don't know that the Bible teaches parents to spare the rod and spoil the child. First of all, that isn't Scripture -- it's a poem by Samuel Butler called "Hudibras" . Not only that, but in the poem he is … [Read More...]

In this section of the site I want to address the dangers and issues of permissiveness. Unfortunately, most people in America are under the impression that you have a choice between being punitive and being permissive. Those who don't want to be permissive embrace a punitive style of parenting, and those who don't want to be punitive typically embrace permissiveness The reasons vary but some of the most popular reasons include having been parented with punishments and not … [Read More...]